电影《死而不亡》以生命的意义为核心，通过一段跨越时空的爱情故事展现了人性的复杂与坚韧。剧情引人入胜，扣人心弦，深入探讨了死亡与生命的边界，让观众思考生命的真谛。影片的精美画面、出色的演技和动人的音乐都为故事增色不少，令人沉浸其中，久久难以忘怀。
死而不亡影评(一)
怎么说呢，看的时候心情好像沉重却又好像平静，很矛盾。有很多个瞬间，我被片子里的细节和观点打动了。看这个片子，包括来评论的动机，是想说明，我不是来猎奇的，我只是来被治愈的，希望我的母亲走的时候并不那么孤独痛苦，希望她还在这个世界的某个地方，希望还能再见到她。这个纪录片让我看到了希望，真好，真好，真好。
死而不亡影评(二)
不能说是死亡，只能说是濒临死亡。一个点：温暖，爱意，世间所有美好的东西都环绕在身边，会遇见一生中最重要的人。好像是一股力拖着不让濒临死亡的人回到现实世界。但剧里有个中年人，看到了已故的父亲并互相表达在乎对方，他却让他回到现实世界；另一个点：在医学上死亡的时间里，会有灵魂出窍这一说，会看见自己周围发生的一切，空间和时间的维度会变化。死亡从来不起结束，灵魂会以它想要的方式延续下去。
相不相信来世相不相信来世，似乎都已经不重要了，重要的是相信死去的人会在某一个温暖的地方继续生活下去。没有人间还有别的间，这一趟走完了，元素重组轮回，万事皆有因果。死亡并不是那么可怕。
我永远相信许多事都无法用科学来解释，正因如此才对灵异世界怀有敬畏和信疑。
死而不亡影评(三)
网飞年初的纪录片《死而不亡》探讨了死后的世界，包括轮回这个主题，看的时候我第一反应是：如果死后的世界像濒死者描述的那样温暖，和谐，被爱包围，死亡也不是一件令人恐惧的事情，只是我个人不想再参与轮回了，今生还不够苦吗？别再有来世了。
把整个记录片看完之后，发现关于超自然现象的探讨反而不是最令人震撼的。活着的人，拥有濒死经历的人，包括有轮回感受的人，他们关于生和死的思考反而令人触动。
纪录片中的几个案例，通过灵媒和已过世的家人沟通的几个主人公，与其说在关注探索死后会有一个怎样的世界，倒不如说在竭尽全力维持自己与逝去家人的联系。
Mike对灵媒的态度从抵触转变为接受，但也不是全盘接受，他还是很注意辨别灵媒给出的信息。他提到一家人都不能接受父亲突然离开人世的现实，太多感情没有一起分享，甚至没能和父亲有一个正式完整的告别。探索死后的世界，包括父亲能从死后的世界传递信息给他和母亲姐姐，更像是一家人以另一种方式在团聚。
同样的，Mike把蝴蝶看作父亲从另一个世界发给他的信号，并因此欢欣鼓舞不已，退一步讲，哪怕蝴蝶只是Mike的个人解读又怎样呢？Mike需要的情感上和父亲的联系，他相信这一切是真的，那就是真的。
Mike的母亲把灵媒沟通的方式推荐给自己的朋友Sue，Sue的女儿死于药物过量，Sue也是因此久久不能释怀。灵媒沟通的时候，传达了Sue的女儿对她的爱和感激之情，并劝慰Sue不要有负罪感，因为她无法通过一己之力改变女儿死亡这个现实。看到这里，且不论人死后是否有灵魂，是否能向人世间传递信息，单说灵媒给Sue信息，就已经是对生者莫大的安慰，一定程度上可以治愈Sue的丧女之痛。
Stephen和Courtney这对夫妻中年丧子，伤痛难平，想通过和另一个世界连接重新和孩子建立联系，并因此参与了一个相关会议，可惜他们并不十分走运，不像片中其它案例一样，经历一些强烈的signal或者sign可以说服自己。虽然心存疑虑，两人仍然抱有希望，母亲说到“Love is still there, and his energy can’t be destroyed”. 另外一些和他们一样的人，虽说未能和所期望的那样，通过连接另一个世界的方式和爱人取得联系，但是多多少少能有所释怀，斯人已逝，但是曾经存在的情感在这个过程中被重新唤起，让活着的人感受到它的真实性和治愈性，同样也是莫大的安慰。
Dr. Kerr以一种相对科学严谨的态度调查了临终vision/dream这种现象，大部分人在vision/dream里见到了自己已过世的亲人，甚至是自己曾经的宠物。Dr. Kerr同样认为这样的经历能给临死之人带来安慰，他们可能因此更坦然地接受死亡，临终的人要是把这些经历分享给在世的亲友，对他们同样也是排遣悲伤的一种方式。
轮回那一集，除了惊叹这种现象的存在，更打动人的还是父母对孩子的爱。无论轮回真的发生，还是有其它的原理可以解释这种现象，片中几个案例，父母对孩子的爱和理解都是实打实的。介绍的三个案例中，父母对于孩子的经历，包括被梦魇而扰，想追求一些情感的归宿，自身所有的想法上的困惑，父母都是愿意倾听的，不仅愿意倾听，还会主动寻求帮助，并且在自己力所能及的范围里，给孩子创造可以排遣他们感情的方式方法和途径，帮助他们做疏导。父母和孩子因此建立起来的信任，就是每一个人今生最值得珍惜的东西之一。
————分割线，讲一个自己的小故事———
2017年十一期间我二舅去世了（我二舅09年确诊胃癌，这一路走下来很不容易）。十一之后，有一天我梦见我从外面进屋，二舅在吃饭，身边还坐着另外两个我不认识的人。我和二舅打招呼，他没有回应我。我醒了之后打电话和我爸妈说，我妈说，大概二舅想你了，来和你告别吧。
然后他们给我讲了另一件事。
九月上旬我表姐做梦梦见前夫的父亲（除了和孩子有关的事情，我表姐几乎不和前夫来往），这位老人和我二舅是高中同学，这个时候已经因病卧床多年。在梦里他和我表姐说他要去找我二舅和他们共同的一个同学，但是这个同学是一位已经去世的女士。我表姐醒了告诉妈，也就是我姨妈，我姨妈打电话给表姐前夫的母亲，问家里一切安好。那位老太太说一切如常，寒暄了两句就挂电话了。但是九月底的时候，我表姐前夫的父亲突然过世了，十一期间我舅舅过世了。
————分割线再讲一个故事————
上面那个经历分享给当时的室友，她说她爸爸做梦经常梦见自己的爷爷，一天天不是要抽烟就是要喝酒。一家人都觉得特别搞笑。
死而不亡影评(四)
外教 KIE 常跑来找我聊天，他懂一点点中文，我懂一点点英文，加上他有 Google 我有百度，我们沟通起来就不会有语言方面的障碍。
半年前他 wife's father 病重，就带着老婆和两只猫回美国去了。
七天前，他来微信说“岳父不在了”。
我不知道怎么安慰他，就百度了一下西人的风俗习惯，“入乡随俗”地复了他一段《圣经》上的话：
前天，KIE 发来他家鸟语花香招蜂、犬吠马嘶迷人的相片。他有一只 19 岁高龄依然精神奕奕的黑猫。
昨晚（我们这里）他用微信问了一个我不懂的问题：“您相信的是天堂还是轮回的概念？”
我只能坦白交代我不懂：“如果‘天堂’、‘轮回’是个概念，我不敢说我信不信，因为我不懂。但如果那是现象的话，我信，譬如网飞最新纪录片《死而不亡》（Surviving Death，2021）里面的。”
再次推荐这部纪录片：
☟ 点击
玛丽医生的濒死体验
无师自通成画家
死后继续行医的詹姆斯医生
记得前世事的詹
一只来报信的红雀
2021.5.21 微信截屏
死而不亡影评(五)
死而不亡者寿。
——老子（约前571-前471）¹
我的经历开始于那个星期三的晚上就已经够不可思议了，第二天是感恩节。
我的濒死体验
何塞·埃尔南德斯（Jose Hernandez）
视频：https://video.h5.weibo.cn/1034:4624051197640769/4624051786222915
我们在一些电线杆上安装电线，我站在一个云梯车上，我说了这样一句话，“如果我站在云梯上不动，你在卡车上操作，给我换地方，可以省几个小时的时间。”
我撞击到了云梯的边上右侧，肋骨全部骨折，我受了重伤，送进了急诊室。
他们给我用了止痛药，那药含有一种消炎的成分，结果我对那种成分过敏，所以最终我的肺停止工作，我停止了呼吸，心脏停止了跳动。
我面前出现了一个隧道，但不是通常被描述的那样，我是坠落进去的。我看到的只有色彩，从四面包围着我，所以我已经完全融合进去了。
我能听到这个色彩对我说话，有几百万个声音，喋喋不休。
然后我往下看，我看到了海洋。然后我注意到一个人在水里，水深大概在膝盖的位置。然后他突然转过身，然后……
我死亡中最大的意外是，我的新生活，那是我父亲。我和我父亲在生活中，关系非常不好，我们甚至都无法拥抱，所以他去世的时候，我痛苦极了，真的很后悔，我们从来都没能说出我们爱彼此，没能说出我们在乎。
……于是我看着他在这方天地间，我说：“天啊，这是我的机会，我能够和我父亲讲和的又一次机会。”
那在我的生命中，是永远都无法做到的。于是，我们拥抱了。我们说，我们爱彼此，我们爱彼此。
这次体验，改变了我人生中的方方面面。现在我知道了，他在乎我，我知道了他爱我。
他拥抱我的时候，看着我，然后他放开了我，就那样看着我，他说：“何塞，你需要回去。”
我看着他，说：“什么？你开什么玩笑？我喜欢这里，这里好棒，我不想回去。”
他对我说：“不行，你必须回去。”
虽然我当时并不想回来，但我们算是达成了一种共识，我们都认同，等我的死亡时间来临，他会来接我。于是我说：“听起来不错，我同意你的提议。”我就穿越回来了。我感觉到一种拉力，感觉到我身体后方的伤。
我在阴间见到我父亲的时候，我意识到，有时候，我们在这里可能有些话无法说出口，但是，我们能在其他地方说出来。
拥有这次机会，真的治愈了我的灵魂。以前，我只是得过且过，并不是真正生活，并不是活着。
这种经历非常难以消化，死亡非常煎熬。我这次经历的几年后，我开始绘画。²
FALL INTO BLUE（落入蓝中）何塞画作
不知道，我以前从来没画过画，最开始只是一种再创我所看到东西的渴望，我在一个有色彩的球中，这些色彩都在移动，然后我变成了一抹色彩，就是这样开始搞艺术的，只是一种想创造 3D 色彩感觉的渴望。
但随着我画得越来越多，我开始意识到，有更深层的东西，我开始感到治愈。
绘画真的在治愈我，死亡会造成心理阴影，很难去消化，很难从中走出来。这个艺术和色彩的世界，给我的生活带来了很多平静与祥和，让我感觉自己了解别人不知道的东西。
人们会问我，这次经历是真还是假，但是，我无法向你证明，我只能把我的经历分享给你。³
My Near-Death Experience⁴
Jose Hernandez
Artist
[Seattle InternationalAssociation forNear-Death Studies]
My experience startedincredibly enough, on a Wednesday evening.And it was Thanksgivingcoming up the next day.And we were running some electrical lines
on some polesand I was up on a bucket truck.We kind of said,"We could save a couple of hoursif I stay up on the bucketand you just maneuver the truckfrom space to space."
[murmuring]
I hit the side of the bucketand I broke all my ribs on my right side.I wound up in n emergency room.
They gave me a medication for painand it had some kindof an anti-inflammatory component.Turns out I'm allergic to it.So, ultimately, my lungs shut down,I stopped breathing and my heart stopped.
[water rushing]
There was a tunnel, but not the waythat it's typically described.I kind of fell into it.And what I saw was just colorwrapped all around me, so thatI was completely integrated into it.And I could hear this color talking to me.Millions of voices."Sssss." This chatter.
Then I look down and I see the ocean.And then I notice a man in the water.He's about knee deep.Then he turns around suddenly.
And, uh...the biggest surprise of my death,my new lifewas that it was my father.
[sniffles]
Me and my dad hada very difficult relationship in life.We couldn't even hug.So when he died, I felt totally bitterand really regretful of the factthat we never were able to saywe love each other or we care.
So I'm lookin' at him here in this space,and I'm saying, "Oh, my gosh.This is my opportunity.My second chanceto make peace with my dad."
[sobbing]
Something that I could never do in life.So...we hugged.
[sniffles]
[exhales]
[crying] And we said we loved each other.We loved each other.That has changed my life in so many ways.Just knowing that he did care.That he didlove me.
He looked at me when he embraced me.And he let go and he just looked at me.He said, "Jose. You need to go back."
I'm lookin' at him, like,"What？ Are you kidding me？I like it here. This is great.I don't wanna go back."
And he said to me,"No, you gotta go back."
Whilst I didn't want to, uh...we came to, kind of,sort of an agreement, in a way.We-- we agreed that, when my time came,he would come get me and I said..."Well, that sounds likea pretty good deal. Let me go with that."And-- and I transitioned back.
I felt this sense of pulland I wound up back in my body.
When I met my dad on the other side...I realized thatsometimes, we may not be able
to say something herebutwe're gonna be ableto say it somewhere else.By having this opportunity...it truly healed my spirit.
Before, I just was moving through life.I wasn't living.I was not alive.
Thank you.
[NEW YORK CITY]
The dying is very difficult.A few years after my experience,I started painting.Had no idea. I'd never painted in my life.Initially, it was just a desireto reproduce what I sawwhere I was in a ball of colorand these colors were all moving,and I become the color.That's how I wound up doing art.Just a desire to try to createthat three-dimensional feeling with color.
But as I kept doing it more and more,I began to realizethat it's a lot deeper than that.It was healing.It was healing me.Dying is traumatic.And it's difficult to integrate
and-- and get past that.This world of art and colorbrought a lot of peace and calminto my life,and it made me feel a sense of knowing.
People ask meif the experience was real or not.At the end of the day,I can't prove to you.I can only share my experience with you.
¹ 出自老子《道德经》第三十三章：
² 何塞个人网站：https://innerimmersion.org/
³ 摘自网飞最新纪录片《死而不亡》（Surviving Death，2021）自带中文字幕，字幕翻译：王成成。
⁴来源：https://subscene.com/subtitles/surviving-death-first-season
这部纪录片的片名“Surviving Death”，原是“死而复生”的意思，中译为“死而不亡”，对于探索濒死体验、灵媒、轮回这样的话题，这个译法更为贴切。
☟ 全六集在线：https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV17V411t7j3
死而不亡影评(六)
死而不亡者寿。
——老子（约前571-前471）¹
2006 年 3 月 15 日，我菩提祖师让我拍视频，其中他讲了一段令在场的人感到一头雾水的话：
“假设上帝派一个人和你说话，你绝对觉得这个肯定是人，不相信是上帝的。他代表上帝和你说话你也不信，那没办法了。你不相信人代表上帝，这我就没办法了喔。第二，上帝不派人和你说，要鸟和你说，你也听不到。”
十一年过后，菩师仙逝，在“五七”（2017.3.28）的那个早上，我们在他故居刚上完香……
当时，有六个人见证了这不可思议的一幕（详见 ☛ 一对双思鸟）。
网飞（NETFLIX）最新纪录片《死而不亡》（Surviving Death，2021）收录了同样的一个案例，一只来报信的红雀，并有专家对这种现象进行了深入的研究。
视频：https://video.h5.weibo.cn/1034:4624197377523812/4624197765044632
珍妮·赖特（Jeanne Wright）：这张照片中的她很开心，满脸笑容。
珍妮的女儿萝莉·斯托里（Lori Storey）对啊。
珍妮：是啊。
萝莉：她的小手。
珍妮：还有这张。
萝莉：我最喜欢这张照片了。
珍妮：我和我妹每年会前往弗吉尼亚州探望母亲两次，当时她已经无法亲自前往加州探望我们了。
每次见面我们都会一起去观鸟，我会看到一些在加州看不到的鸟类，其中一种鸟就是红雀（cardinal），于是我说：“妈，你可不可以派一只红雀过来报信？如果你到了天堂，派一只红雀过来报信。”
她生前听了总会说：“如果行得通，我会试试看。”
她过世那年 97 岁。她不想离开的，她很爱家人。过世一个月前，她在医院说：“我想上天堂，但我还不想走。”
葬礼隔天，我们一起玩桥牌。她生前最爱玩桥牌了。突然之间，我们听到有东西敲拍窗户，原来是一只红雀。我们心想：“天啊。”
（事发视频）
珍妮：黛比。
珍妮的妹妹黛比（Debbie, Jeanne's sister）：显灵了。
珍妮：我们没想到她会以这种形式出现。
黛比：不会吧？
珍妮：我一直以为，她会以其他我意想不到的方式显灵。
黛比：是妈妈显灵了！
珍妮：我们把它放在手上，摸摸它。它很满足地栖息在我们手中。
（事发视频） 黛比：妈妈，飞吧！ 珍妮：它可能还没冷静下来。 黛比：飞吧。
珍妮：隔了一阵子，我们决定走到屋外，我妹让它站在手臂上放飞。
（事发视频） 黛比：飞吧，宝贝。
珍妮：结果它总之飞回来，停在她身上，就是不想走。
（事发视频） 黛比：天啊，太不可思议了。
珍妮：我们都感到惊讶不已。我们都说：“妈妈显灵了，这是我们说好的。”这是妈妈的爱啊，她想让我们知道她爱我们，她并不想离开。
（事发视频）
男士：它不怕人。
能不能把它放在树枝上？
珍妮：我们都感到很惊讶。我们起到一只红雀会出现，只能是红雀，把它掌握在手中
Lori Storey（Jeanne's daughter）：人生有多少次能将奇迹掌握在手中？
（事发视频）
它飞走了！
它飞走了！²
Send Me ACardinalWhen YouGetTo Heaven³
Jeanne Wright: Happy then, too. Smiling.
Lori Storey（Jeanne's daughter）: Mm-hm.
Jeanne:Yeah. Okay.
Lori:Her little hand.
Jeanne:And this one.
Lori:This is my favorite.
Jeanne:My sister and I would come andvisit my mother in Virginia twice a yearwhen she could no longercome visit us in California.And we would all go bird-watching.And I would see the birdsthat we don't have in California,and one of 'em was a cardinal.I would say, "Mother, now,could you send me a cardinal？Send me a cardinal when you get to heaven,then I'll know that you made it."And so she would always say,"Oh, I'll try," or, "If I can, I will."
She was 97 when she died.She didn't wanna go. She loved her family.And she said, when she was in the hospitalabout a month before she died,she said, "I wanna go to heaven,but I don't wanna leave, not yet."
A day after her service, we wereall sitting around playing canasta.She was… Kind of her favorite game.And all of a sudden,we heard something hit the window.It was a cardinal,and we were just like, "Oh, my gosh."
Jeanne:Debbie! Debbie（Jeanne's sister）:I think this is it. Jeanne: We never thought of it this way.
Debbie:No!
Jeanne: That's… You know, I always thought, well…it would be some way I never thought of. Debbie:It is Mother!
Jeanne: We held it. We petted it.We just…And it was just content, you know,in our hands.
Debbie:Here we go, Mama. Jeanne: It might still be stunned. Debbie:Fly away.
Jeanne: So, after a while,we decided we should go outside.And my sister held up her armto let it go.
Debbie:Come on, baby.
Jeanne: Oooh! Debbie:Oh!
Jeanne: And it just flewand flew right back to her.You know, it doesn't wanna go.
Debbie:Oh, my gosh, I cannot believe it.
Jeanne: So we were all just…
Debbie:Oh, Jeanne!
Jeanne: …amazed and thrilled,and saying, "Well, this is the sign,you know, that we asked for."Well, it's just the love of my mom.She wanted us to knowthat, you know, she loved us,and didn't wanna leave.
Man: He's not afraid.
Woman:Can you set him on a branch？
Jeanne: We were just in awe.The prayer for a cardinalspecifically a cardinal.
Lori:To have it in your hand.I mean, how many timesdo you hold a miracle in your hands？
Debbie:Watch this.… Oh, there he goes! Yay! woman: Oh! There he goes.
¹ 出自老子《道德经》第三十三章：
²摘自网飞最新纪录片《死而不亡》（Surviving Death，2021）自带中文字幕，字幕翻译：林德艾。
³来源：https://subscene.com/subtitles/surviving-death-first-season
这部纪录片的片名“Surviving Death”，原是“死而复生”的意思，中译为“死而不亡”，对于探索濒死体验、灵媒、轮回这样的话题，这个译法更为贴切。
全六集在线：https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV17V411t7j3
死而不亡影评(七)
死而不亡者寿。
——老子（约前571-前471）¹
视频：https://video.h5.weibo.cn/1034:4623386727612430/4623387986497804
作为一名医师，我知道很多人不会去真正思考死亡，直到他们不得不去思考。但是 20年前，我不只身体上死亡了，还死亡了一阵子。那次经历彻底改变了我一切的性格和为人。
我的濒死体验
玛丽·尼尔，医学博士，脊柱外科医生
1999 年，我安排了去智利划皮划艇，我很期待去探索那里河流的一段，那里的瀑布很有名。
我们把皮划艇放到河里，划过了前面几段下落的地方。这条河的水流量非常大，所以我们决定去划第一个主瀑布的一小部分，我就划到了滞急的水流中，当时有另外一个人也在划皮划艇，她划过去的时候几乎是一跳一跳的，她的划艇在瀑布入口处的小岔路上横住了，所以我只能被迫去瀑布的正中央，我知道，肯定不会好划。
我的划艇被卡住了，我被完全浸没在三米深的水里，我无法呼吸了，我的身体完全贴在了皮艇前端的平面上，我能感觉到我的骨头在断裂。
我觉得我应该喊叫，但是我没有。我感觉没有痛苦、没有害怕、没有慌张，我从来没有感觉如此鲜活。
我能感觉到我的灵魂从我的身体剥离，我的灵魂释放出来，升入了天堂，我立刻被一群“什么”打了招呼。
我不知道该说他们是什么人、灵魂、存在。他们中，我一个都不认识，但不知为何，他们却在我的人生故事中很重要。就像在我出生前就过世的祖父母一样，他们非常开心，欢迎我，和我打招呼，爱我。
这些存在开始带我沿着一条路走。这条路铺满了厚厚的成千上万的花朵，充满了花香，爆发出宇宙中的每一种色彩，明显有时间和空间维度的改变，我在每一秒之内都在经历各种永恒，每一秒都扩展成了各种永恒。
这条路通往一个巨大的穹顶结构，我相信，我当时是在天堂，上帝的世界，随便你叫它什么。我有一种强烈的回家的感觉。
同时，我又能回头看到那条河。我的身体还浸没在水中。一群划皮划艇的人努力想要靠近我，但是他们做不到。
大概过了 15 分钟，他们放弃了救援，他们真的开始休息了，恢复自己的体力。有一个人看到我的救生衣出现在下游，觉得我丈夫可能会想要，他去拿的时候，感觉到我的身体撞击了他的腿，于是他潜到水下，能够抓到我的手腕。
我的身体都膨胀、发紫了，眼睛已经呆滞了。毫无疑问，我的内心认为，我的身体已经死亡了，但我从那个穹顶结构的入口往下看，他们开始做心肺复苏，我还能听到他们说话。有一个人一直呼唤我，让我醒醒，让我呼吸，说，“拜托你醒醒，我知道你还没走。”
我有 30分钟脱离了氧气，从这个时间数据来看，我活下来的概率已经为零了。
我不想下去，回到自己的身体中。
我有一种非常真实的感觉，被抱着，被安慰着，让我相信，一切都好。但是那些存在告诉我，我的时间还没有到，我在地球上还有更多事情要做，我必须回到自己的身体中。
等我睁开眼的时候，给我施救的那几个人震惊了。
我的身体非常扭曲，毕竟我刚刚溺水，但我同时还有多处骨折、腿部韧带撕裂。我当时还在河流的一侧，在一个荒无人烟的地方，给我施救的那几个人把我的身体放在了一个皮划艇上，他们开始试着把我拉上山坡。我们到了一条土路上。他们觉得，或许可以让谁跑去弄一个拖拉机，或者一匹马什么的。
但当我们到了土路上的时候，那里就有一辆救护车。然而在 1999 年的智利南方，根本没有救护车这种东西，很让人费解。
他们用了好几个小时，但是我朋友们最终把我送到了医院。我丈夫被医生告知，我可能活不过那晚。
但我活过去了。我在医院住了一个多月，我进行了几次大手术，还有很多个月的复健，我才终于又能走路了。
从经验数据来看，我存活下来、没有明显大脑损伤的概率为零，但我从没有过任何的大脑损伤。我的孩子们或许不会认同这句话，但是，我完全康复了。
作为一名医师，我身边的人都不太喜欢讨论濒死体验这种事情。科学工作者通常认为，任何超自然的东西都不能相信。我刚读医学院的时候，我会把死亡定义为，死亡就是身体的死亡。
但是我的濒死体验，还有十年后发生在我儿子身上的事情，极大地改变了我对死亡的定义。
我不相信，我们知道一切。
儿子遭遇意外
我比这个地球上的任何人都更有动机去反对我所描述的东西，因为在我的濒死体验中，我和这些存在一起的时候，他们告诉我，我的大儿子韦利将会意外死亡。在我出事的时候，他才九岁。
我知道，如果我能想到任何其他的合理解释，我就能够不去相信他们告诉我的事情。他们并没有告诉我他死亡的具体日期和时间，但他们给我的信息非常具体，让我去认为他永远都活不过 18 岁。
然后，我问为什么，“你知道为什么？为什么是韦利？为什么是我儿子？”
他们告诉我，一切的事情，都有它的美丽。
你们可以想象，我每天早上起来，都会去想今天是不是我儿子的死期，这有多痛苦。
我没有对任何人说这件事，直到韦利 18 岁生日后不久。我们在一次滑雪比赛上，我在凌晨四点敲韦利酒店的房门，告诉了他。
他以为我疯了，但我告诉了他。
他听到以后，泰然自若地接受了，所以当他到了 18 岁生日的时候，我松了一口气，我开始认为，他命运的安排已经改变了。
大约两年后，韦利当时在缅恩州的一个滑雪营地，他在滚轮滑雪。这是一种全国的陆地滑雪项目，和他的一个朋友一起滚轮滑雪，一辆车错开了他的朋友，撞到了他，当场死亡。
世界都停止了。
我的经历没有保护我，让我免受悲伤。
死亡不是终结
我爱我儿子，也会继续爱他。我对他的爱，远超出我的想象，但是我的濒死体验改变的我对死亡的理解。死亡不是句号，不是终结，死亡只是失去了身体。
我知道我的儿子正在某个地方。我知道，我会再见到他。²
My Near-Death Experience³
Mary C. Neal
MD，ORTHOPEDIC SPINE SURGEON
As a physician, I know thatmost people don't think about death reallyuntil they're forced to.But 20 years ago,I was not only physically dead,I had been dead for a while.And that experience radically changedeverything about what I am and who I am.
In 1999,I arranged to go to Chile and kayak.And I was looking forwardto this section of riverthat's well known for its waterfalls.We put on the river and we went overthe first couple of drops.This river has a very high flow.So we decided to run this smaller partof the first major waterfall.And so I pulled out in the current.There was another kayakerwho had sort of bobbled her way past.And her boat was lodged sidewaysat the entrance.So I was forced overto the main part of the waterfall.I knew it was not gonna be good!
My boat became pinned and I was completelysubmerged under ten feet of water.I was not breathing.My torso was absolutely plasteredto the front deck of the boat.I could feel my bones breaking.
I thought I should be screaming,but I wasn't.I felt... uh, no pain, no fear, no panic.I felt more alive than I've ever felt.
I could feel my spiritsort of peeling away from my body,and my spirit was then releasedup to the heavens.I was immediately greetedby a group of somethings.
I don't know what to call them.People, spirits, beings.I didn't recognize any of them.But they had been importantin my life story somehow.Like a grandparentwho died before I was born.They were so overjoyed to welcome meand greet me and love me.
These beings started taking medown this pathway.The pathway was very thickly coveredwith hundreds of thousands of flowers,and the aromas of flowers.It was explodingwith every color of the universe.There was an absolute shiftof time and dimension.I experienced all of eternityin every second,and every secondexpanded into all of eternity.
The pathway wentto this great domed structure.I believe I was in heaven.God's world, whatever you wanna call it.I had an overwhelming senseof being home.
At the same time,I could look back at the river,where my bodywas still submerged under water.The group of kayakerskept trying to get to me,but they were never able to do it.
And after maybe 15 minutes,they had given up rescue.They had really shifted overinto a body recovery mode.One of the guys saw my life jacketpop up downstreamand thought that maybe my husbandwould want it.As he got that,he felt my body hit his leg.So he reached underwaterand was able to grab my wrist.
My body was bloated and purpleand I had fixed eyes.There's absolutely no doubtin my own mind that I was physically dead.But I watchedfrom the entrance to the domed structureas they started CPR,and I could still hear them.One of the guys kept calling to meto come back and take a breath.You know, "Please come back.I know you're still here."
I had been without oxygen for 30 minutes,and the statistical likelihoodof my survival should have been zero.
I did not want to go back down to my body.
I had a very, very physical sensationof being held and comfortedand reassured that everything was fine.But the beings told methat it wasn't my time,that I had more work to do on Earth,and that I had to go back to my body.
When I opened my eyes,the guys that resuscitated mewere stunned.
I was in terrible shape.I mean, I had just drowned.But I also had, uh...multiple broken bonesand torn ligaments in my legs.And I wason the side of a riverin the middle of nowhere.The guys who resuscitated meput my body on top of a boatand then beganto try to get me up the hillside.We emerged onto a dirt road.They thought maybe someone would runand get a tractor, a horse or something.
But when we emerged onto the dirt road,exactly there was an ambulance, whichin 1999, in southern Chile,didn't exist.It was inexplicable.
It took a number of hours,but my friends got me to the hospital.My husband was actually told thatI probably would not survive the night.
But I did.I was in the hospitalfor more than a month.I had several operations.Then many, many months of rehabbefore I could walk again.
And statistically, I had zero likelihoodof survivingwithout significant brain damage.But I never actually had any brain damage.My kids might saysomething differently, butImade a complete recovery.
As a physician,I'm not really in a crowd of peoplewho want to talk about thingslike near death experiences.People in science often think you can'tpossibly believe in anything supernatural.When I went off to medical school,I would have defined death asdeath, meaning physical death.
But my near-death experience,and then what happenedto my son ten years later,changed my definition of deathsignificantly.
I don't believe thatwe know everything.
I had more motivationthan any other person on this planetto disprove my account.Because during my near-death experience,when I was with these beingsthey told me about the comingand unexpected deathof my oldest son, Willie,who was only nine years oldat the time of my accident.
I knew that if I could come upwith any other plausible explanation,that I would be able to discounteverything I'd been told.I wasn't given details in termsof the date and time of his death,but it was very concrete informationthat made me thinkhe would never live to be 18.
AndI asked why.You know, why...Why Willie？ Why my son？
And I was toldthat beauty comes of all things.
You can imagine how difficult it wasto wake up every day wonderingif that would be the day that my son died.
I did not tell anyone about thatuntil shortly beforeWillie's 18th birthday.We were at a ski raceand I knocked on Willie's hotel room doorat about four in the morningand told him.
And he thought-- he thought I was crazy.
Um...But I told him and hetook it in stride.So when he reached his 18th birthday,I relaxed.I sort of thoughtthe plan for his life had changed.
About two years laterWillie was at a ski camp in Maine.He was roller-skiing,which is a cross-country,dry landform of skiingwith a friend of his,and acar missed her and hit himand killed him instantly.
The world stopped.
My experience, uh, did notand does not protect me from grief.
Um...I love...I loved my son and continue to love him...uh...more than I can imagine.But my near-death experiencechangeshow I understand death.Death is not the final wordand it's not the end.Death is just the physical loss.
I know my son issomewhere.And I know that I'll see him again.
¹ 出自老子《道德经》第三十三章：
² 摘自网飞最新纪录片《死而不亡》（Surviving Death，2021）自带中文字幕，字幕翻译：王成成。
³来源：https://subscene.com/subtitles/surviving-death-first-season
这部纪录片的片名“Surviving Death”，原是“死而复生”的意思，中译为“死而不亡”，对于探索濒死体验、灵媒、轮回这样的话题，这个译法更为贴切。
全六集在线：https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV17V411t7j3
死而不亡影评(八)
凯西（Edgar Cayce，1877-1945）是一个不懂医而治愈率奇高的牛人，“行医”几十年，留下医案数万至今成为珍贵数据（详见 ☛ 三顾睡医）。
虽然凯西已经不在世上，但无论在什么时候，无论在什么地方，我们都不缺凯西这样的人，缺的只是我们够不够宽容、耐心而不急于下判断。
视频：https://video.h5.weibo.cn/1034:4623616537722942/4623617033244060
莉比·克拉克（灵媒、治疗师和导师 ¹）：你好。
西尔瓦娜 和汉斯（当地居民）：你好。
莉比：你肯定是汉斯了。
汉斯：对。
莉比：你好，很高兴认识你，亲爱的。我已经准备好了，你可以进来了。
汉斯：好的。
西尔瓦娜：我可以进去吗？
莉比：当然可以。
西尔瓦娜：谢谢。
（他们走向治疗室）
西尔瓦娜：他有肌肉抽筋、肌肉痉挛的问题，他的手软弱无力，容易疲倦，经常感动疲倦。
汉斯：我们所有医院都去过了，医生就是找不出原因。
莉比：请坐在那边。
汉斯：我希望今天，或许今天能找到答案。
莉比：我当执业灵媒超过 40年了，感觉似乎很老了，如今我已经开发出跟灵体合作的治疗能力，启发我的灵体是詹姆斯医生，他会进入我另一层意识状态，施行治疗能力，也就是恍惚状态。
莉比：好了。
莉比：詹姆斯医生怎么启发我走上灵媒之路呢？我老公，他的大腿曾做过大手术。某天鲍勃躺在沙发上，我则坐在扶手椅上，我们两人都看见一道光射入房间，接着有个老人从那道光中走出来，手上拿着一个老旧的医生包，他伸手往包里取出一个光球，把它按在鲍勃的大腿上，接着光球沉入大腿内。 他重复那个动作好几次后，鲍勃说：“疼痛散去了。” 他只是看着鲍勃点头微笑，接着转头望向我，然后回头走向那道光中。 从那时起，詹姆斯医生不时会附在我身上，日子久了，他的能力也越来越强。
莉比：汉斯，待会儿见。
莉比：我不曾接受过正规医疗培训，我只把一切交给他，然后离开肉身。
（汉斯打鼾。莉比清了清嗓子，闭上眼睛。）
詹姆斯（莉比深沉的声音）：亲爱的孩子，你好。
汉斯：嗯嗯。
詹姆斯：我相信你现在很舒服。
汉斯：对。
詹姆斯：太好了。我知道你跟我的灵媒说过你的健康隐忧。
汉斯：嗯嗯。
詹姆斯：看看我们能做些什么，我马上就从你身上感应到，你的肾上腺的负担比一般增加了一倍。没错，这种情况开始期间，你正经历很大的压力，对吧？
汉斯：对。
詹姆斯：亲爱的孩子，如果你是个原始人，我会告诉你，这是一种面临压力时或战或逃所触发的内在反应——我想这是现代的说法——你从来不曾把这股能量释放出来。
（汉斯开始哭泣）
詹姆斯：现在……（莉比的头转向西尔瓦娜）亲爱的，你有没有纸巾？
西尔瓦娜：哦，没有。
詹姆斯：我的灵媒手提包中有些纸巾，你可不可以……
（西尔瓦娜取来纸巾）
詹姆斯：亲爱的孩子，自己擦吧。
（西尔瓦娜递纸巾给汉斯）
詹姆斯：很好。所有的情绪问题，都被困在你体内。
（汉斯点头）
詹姆斯：因此我要做的是，施加一些能量，这是一个很正面的能量，如此一来，这股焦虑感就不会再回来了。
（汉斯点头）
詹姆斯：那能量进去了。你有没有发现你已经不再发抖了？
汉斯：对啊。
詹姆斯：现在感觉如何？
汉斯：很舒服。
詹姆斯：很好，没事了。好了，亲爱的，今天我们能做的都做了，我们继续释放能量。
汉斯：好。
詹姆斯：好好照顾自己，亲爱的孩子。
汉斯：谢谢。
詹姆斯：好好享受。
（莉比转向西尔瓦娜）
詹姆斯：谢了，亲爱的。
（莉比转回向汉斯）
詹姆斯：愿上帝祝福你。
汉斯：这一刻，我感到十分畅快，我之前感到的压力都消失了，我肩膀、大腿中的压力，如今都消失了。
西尔瓦娜：我的老公回来了。他，瞧瞧他的脸色，完全变了个人。
汉斯：是的。
莉比：我不是来说服你，或是向你证明什么，如果有人想得到疗愈，就可能得到疗愈。如果有人来是想得到某种信息，我会看看能不能帮到对方。但我从来不会试图去改变任何人，因为我知道人活到某个特定时刻，都会迫切寻找突破。人活到某个时候，会需要某种东西。灵界总会在那时介入，然后帮助他们理解身边所发生的一切。²
TRANCE HEALING SESSIONS ³
OPEN TO PUBLIC
Libby Clark (TraneHealingMedium& Instructor): Hello.
Silvana& Hans (Local residents): Hello.
Libby:You must be Hans.
Hans: Yes.
Libby: Hello. Nice to meet you, sweetheart. I'm ready if you want to come through.
Hans: Okay.
Silvana: Can I come, too？
Libby:Yes, absolutely.
Silvana:Thank you.
Silvana:He has got muscle cramps, muscle spasms. He doesn't have the strength in his hands anymore. He's tired. All of the time, he's tired.
Hans: We've seen every hospital, doctors, but can't find exactly what it is.
Libby:Have a seat over there.
Hans:Yeah, I hope, today, maybeI get some answers.Yeah.
Libby:I've now been a working mediumover 40 years.Makes me feel very old.But, um, I now have reached the pointwhere I have developedmy healing abilities along with spiritand an inspirer called Dr. James who works through mein an altered state of consciousness,also known as trance.
Libby:Okay.
Libby:The way that Dr. Jamescame into my mediumship.My husbandhad had major surgery on his leg.If you snore...So Bob's on the sofa with his legand I'm sat in the armchair.We both witnessed a light in the room.And out of the lightstepped an elderly manwith a big old Gladstone bag,like a doctor's bag.And he went to the bagand he took out a ball of lightheld it against Bob's legand it dissolved in.And he did that probably a dozen times.And Bob said, "The pain's going."And he just looked at Bob,nodded and smiled,and looked at meand just walked back into the light.And then Dr. Jamesstarted coming through me.And he just got stronger and strongerover time.
Libby:All right, Hans.I'll see you in a little while.
Libby:I have no medical training.I just hand over to himand I just step out of the way.
[Hans snoring]
[Libby clearing throat]
[Hans snoring]
Libby'sdeep voice: Aah.Good day to you, dear boy.
Hans:Hm, hm.
Libby'sdeep voice:I trust that you are comfortable, hmm？
Hans:Yes.
Libby'sdeep voice:Excellent, excellent. Hm, hm.I know that you spoke to my medium...um, of your health concerns.Hm？
Hans:Mm-hm.
Libby'sdeep voice:Let's just see what we can do here.Straight away, the feedback I havetells me that your, uh... adrenal glandsare working double time, mm？Right. When this started... hm...you had just gone througha very stressful time, yes？
Hans: Yes.
Libby'sdeep voice:Mm.If you were a caveman, dear boy,I would tell youthat your flight and fight response...uh, kicked in.I think that's the modern phrase, hm？
[Hans grunts]
Libby'sdeep voice:And you've never released that energy.
[gasps]
[grunts]
Libby'sdeep voice:Now then...Uh, do you have any tissues, my dear？
Silvana:No, I don't.
Libby'sdeep voice:There are some in my medium's handbag.
[gasps]
Libby'sdeep voice:If you could just...
[splutters]
Libby'sdeep voice:Just help yourself, dear boy.Hm？
[sniffs]
Libby'sdeep voice:There we go.So all of that emotional issuehas been tied up inside you, hmm？So what I want to do here is just...
[Hans sighs]
Libby'sdeep voice:...place a little energy...Now, this is quite fine energy,so that you're not getting this paniccoming back again, hmm？So...into there we go.
[sighs]
Libby'sdeep voice:Did you notice you're not shaking？
Hans: Yeah.
Libby'sdeep voice:Mm. Now, how do you feel？
[Hans sighs softly]
Hans:I feel, uh, nice.
Libby'sdeep voice:Good. So there we go.All right, dear boy.I think we've done all that we canfor todayand I will continue to send the energies.Mmm？
Hans:Okay.
Libby'sdeep voice:So take care, dear boy.
Hans:Thank you.
Libby'sdeep voice:And enjoy. Enjoy.Hmm.Thank you, my dear. Mmm.And God bless you.
[Hans sighs]
Hans: Now, in this moment,I feel really great.The pressure I had...it's gone.My pressure in my bodyin my arms, in my legs,it's gone now.
Silvana:I've got my husband back.He... Uh, look at his face.He's totally changed.
Hans:Yes.
Libby: I'm not here to convince youor to prove anything to you.If you want healing, you can have healing.If you've come for a message,I'll see what I can get for you.But I don't try to convert people.Because I know that people needto find this in their own time and space.There'll be a point in their liveswhen they need something.And that's oftenwhen the spirit world will step inand help them to understandwhat's going on around them.
¹ 灵媒莉比·克拉克（Libby Clark）官网：www.libbyclark.co.uk
²摘自网飞最新纪录片《死而不亡》（Surviving Death，2021）第 2 集自带中文字幕，字幕翻译：林德艾。
³来源：https://subscene.com/subtitles/surviving-death-first-season
这部纪录片的片名“Surviving Death”，原是“死而复生”的意思，中译取老子（约前571-前471）《道德经》第三十三章中的“死而不亡”，对于探索濒死体验、灵媒、轮回这样的话题，这个译法更为贴切。
全六集在线：https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV17V411t7j3
